Saturday, January 26, 2013

Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation

     This is my 6th year teaching preschool in a small town. The topic of gays and/or lesbians has never come up in my classroom. I do not include books depicting gays and/or lesbians in my classroom, because we do not have children from LGBT families. Every year I have students from nontraditional families, therefore I do include books that depict their diverse families. If I were to have a student one year from a LGBT family, then I would approach this topic and use books to help students understand. I would have students discuss their families, what makes a family, and how their family is similar and different from other families. I would hope to help students see that every family is diverse and yet they all include love, support, and respect. The “Start Seeing Diversity” video (Laureate Education, Inc., 2010) demonstrated things teachers could do in the classroom to help students understand sexual orientation better and what they think it means. When an issue arises in the classroom, then I feel it is a good policy to engage the students in conversation and help them understand their own identities and how their actions/words impact others.

      Many times I have seen parents come into my classroom and get upset about their son playing in the housekeeping center where they are cooking, taking care of the babies, playing dress up, etc. I  point out how great it is that they are acting out positive things they have seen at home and explain that he will make a great dad, husband, or whatever role he is pretending. Parents and families can send positive and negative messages to their children that will impact the child’s role and identity. I want my students to feel comfortable in expressing themselves, learning who they are, acting out various roles, and developing a positive self-esteem.

     I had to stop and consider how I would respond to a parent/family member who informed me that they did not want anyone who is perceived homosexual or transgender to be caring for, educating, and/or interacting with their child. I think I would explain to the parent/family member that they have the right to remove their child from the program if they did not agree with our school policies of hiring teachers and staff members. I would also explain to the family that our school only hires highly qualified teachers and staff to educate and care for the children. I would explain that someone’s sexual orientation does not interfere with their ability to educate, care for, or interact with the children. I would respond by saying that everyone is diverse in their own way and that we cannot discriminate against someone just because we do not agree with their choices, where they are from, or the color of their skin.

 

References:

Laureate Education, Inc. (Producer). (2010). Start Seeing Diversity. (DVD).  In EDUC 6357 Diversity, Development, and Learning.

4 comments:

  1. Marcie,

    Thank you for your post and honesty. I am from a small town and now I live in a small town. I believe that it is some gays and lesbians in this town. I go to the local Wal-Mart and I notice lesbian men and women. So, I think there are many gays and lesbian all over and it is beginning to be more open.

    My two sons are in non-traditional roles, one is a cheerleader (stunt-leader) and the other is a chef (cook). Neither, I believe is homosexual, but heterosexual. I have no problem with this and my son who is a cheerleader wanted to cheer since junior high school. Yes, he did get the looks and stares, even when I went to a game it was hard to see men and women staring at him; yet I believe everyone was educated that you don’t have to be gay because you are in a female dominated field.

    Reference
    Laureate Education, Inc. (Producer). (2010). Start Seeing Diversity. (DVD). In EDUC 6357 Diversity, Development, and Learning.

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  2. Marcie,

    I consider that our early childhood classrooms are the safest places where children can the pretend roles they cannot play in their homes. I had a student who enjoyed wearing the girls’ shoes we had in the pretending area. When his younger brother saw him the first time, he yelled that his brother was wearing girls’ shoes and their mom would get so mad on him. At the end of the day I talked to their grandma, who went to pick the boys up, and explained her that her older grandson was wearing girls’ shoes in the classroom. Luckily the grandma said that the boy was just trying what he has seen in his house with her and the boys’ mom.

    Sincerely, I did not expect this answer from the grandma, but her attitude helped me realize that I needed to stop thinking for others and/or assuming things.

    Thanks for your post Marcie!

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  3. I feel that early childhood classrooms are a safe place where children can play pretend roles that they may not feel comfortable at home. I always have students that play pretend that may not be the "normal" roles for a girl or boy. For instance I have girls that dress as construction workers and boys that pretend to be cooks. I think this is great! I gives them an open mind about what they want to be when they grow up.

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  4. Marcie,

    Occasionally we have to remind people that we are an Equal Opportunity Employer. That means we consider without regard to race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, age, disability mariatl and so forth. Everyone is considered equal and respected as an individual.

    Children are free to explore their environment. Often times, children will imitate roles that they see at home. For example a mother who cares for a newborn baby. Children will pretend to care for the baby regardless of their gender. We have to keep an open mind and respect their choices.

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