Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions

This week I observed people’s interactions and tried to detect examples of microaggression. I really did not know what to expect in the beginning. I was at a local fast food restaurant and noticed a lady in front of me ordering several meals. The man at the register said “wow, someone must be hungry”. The lady placing the order did not say anything, only looked down towards the ground. I noticed as she was getting into her car with her order, that she had a car full of people. People are quick to judge people based on their size and/or appearance. The message the cashier sent to the lady was that she eats a lot of food. I felt like he was insinuating that she should not be eating that much food. I felt bad for her; because I could tell he hurt her feelings. I do not think the cashier intended to insult her or assume anything, but his words and behavior were disrespectful and hurtful.

After observing people in public situations, I realized how often people discriminate against others. I do not think people intend to be prejudice or stereotypical towards others, but their actions and behaviors definitely impact those around them. This exercise was definitely an eye opener for me.

Perspectives on Divsersity and Culture

I asked a colleague, a friend, and a family member the definition of diversity and culture. They each did not respond right away. They were trying to think about how they would answer my question.

My friend answered with culture and diversity are defined by a person’s religion, ethnicity, lifestyle, and values. People are influenced by the details of their life – the past and present.

My colleague responded with culture is defined by how a person behaves and their beliefs based on where a person lives. Diversity is the differences in people. People are different based on economic status, race, gender, and religion.

My family member said that culture and diversity defines oneself. We are all diverse and from different cultures. Culture is defined as one’s religion, beliefs, race, and gender. Culture is the things that influence a person such as traditions and where they live. Diversity is simply what makes people different from each other.  A variety of things determine how we are diverse from each other.

I think all these definitions are accurate on some level, but culture and diversity are a combination of these definitions. I have learned that culture and diversity is more than what we can see about a person. Culture is a person’s traditions, beliefs, religion, gender, race, values, and their lifestyle. Diversity is how we are different defined by one’s culture and the many things that define our culture. Two people from the same family are diverse based on their personal experiences, values, and gender. One example is a friend and her siblings are from the same family, but they moved to different states. They each make different salaries and live different lifestyles.

Listening to others define and reflect on culture and diversity really supports how everyone is different and how we are defined by these differences. We all value our culture and how it impacts our lives.

My Family Culture

      Three items that I would choose in the event of an emergency are my Bible, my family photo album, and a family quilt. I would choose the Bible, because it is a major part of who I am, how I was raised, and how I want my children to be raised. My faith, religion, and culture come from God and His blessings in my life. I feel it is important to teach my children and others about God’s promises and His word. I would take my family photo album, because there are numerous pictures of relatives and important events in the photo album. I feel these pictures help explain who we are based on our past and our family’s past. The photos capture memories of relatives who are no longer living so that we can share stories about them with our children. The photos also capture memories of births, birthdays, holidays, vacations, and other special events that explain who we are as a family and our culture. The third item I would take is a quilt that my mother-in-law hand made and then gave to my husband. This quilt is compiled of 12 different squares. She created this quilt where every square is a scene and tells a story about her family and childhood. For example, one of the squares on the quilt is a scene from her childhood where she attended a small country church.  Below each square is a sewn description that explains the scene such as who is involved and where it took place. I want to pass this quilt on to my children because it captures who their grandmother is and has memories about family we never knew. It helps explain how and where she grew up. It is a beautiful quilt that demonstrates her talent and is part of my family's culture.

      If upon arrival I was told I could only keep one of these three items, then I would feel as if they were taking part of my culture  away from me. I would feel that they did not value who I was or my family culture. It would be very difficult to pick only one item and leave the other things behind.

      The insight I gained from this exercise is that my values, beliefs, and family are very important to me. I thought it was difficult to only choose three items to take with me to represent my family culture. There are other items that I feel are important and I hope never to be put in that position. Things that I feel are most important are things that capture memories from the past and describe who we are as a family. I would choose items that helped explain to others who I am, who my family is and was. We all take pride in sharing with others about our family and culture, because they make up who we are.